Talking and Listening Skills for the Entire Family
Trying to talk to your child who seems to be on a different wave length all together can be frustrating, and this is true regardless of the age.
Teaching your child to express feelings in a healthy way is a must, but as parenthood soon proves, is a difficult task to achieve, especially with older children.
So, after months of getting nowhere with my toddler, I went out on a hunt for help and came across a book, "How to Talk to Kids So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk," by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. So far, and I am barely through the first chapter, it has proved to be very promising. It is filled with exercises and practices so it needs a parent's full attention and you will find yourself completely submerged in the practices.
One of the main things I got from it, is when a child comes to you with a problem, avoid your impulse to ask questions or give advice right away, use encouraging phrases like: I see or mmm, and you will find your child will continue talking and maybe even find a solution for herself. I tried this one with my 10-year-old and found it really works.
If you are struggling for productive communication, try this book!
Trying to talk to your child who seems to be on a different wave length all together can be frustrating, and this is true regardless of the age.Teaching your child to express feelings in a healthy way is a must, but as parenthood soon proves, is a difficult task to achieve, especially with older children.
So, after months of getting nowhere with my toddler, I went out on a hunt for help and came across a book, "How to Talk to Kids So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk," by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. So far, and I am barely through the first chapter, it has proved to be very promising. It is filled with exercises and practices so it needs a parent's full attention and you will find yourself completely submerged in the practices.
One of the main things I got from it, is when a child comes to you with a problem, avoid your impulse to ask questions or give advice right away, use encouraging phrases like: I see or mmm, and you will find your child will continue talking and maybe even find a solution for herself. I tried this one with my 10-year-old and found it really works.
If you are struggling for productive communication, try this book!
