Saturday, October 22, 2011

Flavour of The Day With Noora

Extra Naggy!

Yousef, my 11-month-old son, has been extra naggy the past few months. I don’t know why and I cannot figure out what has changed, but things are definitely getting out of control.

If I leave the room to go to the kitchen for example, even though he can still see me, he starts crying. If we are in the same room, he has to be in my lap. If we are not in the same room, he cries hysterically. What’s even worse is that he is not accepting ANYONE but me. He is constantly nagging until I carry him.

I don’t know if this is just a phase, but I need to find a solution ASAP. Before all this, he used to love going to my sister’s house and I could leave him there for hours without any problems. Now, he refuses to stay in the same room with her if I am not there!

For anyone who works from home and has an entire house to look after, this situation is too hard to handle. I cannot carry him while I am cooking or cleaning and I cannot leave all the work until he is asleep, I am too exhausted by then.

Some people are telling me that I should gradually try to change this habit; others are telling me that I should wait it out. But, what if waiting it out makes things worse?!

What shall I do?


Anonymous said...

I once read that this is a normal behavior in this phase, I don’t wana make u sad, but it may last til 1.5 year :) but I read that you could manage these behavior by letting other ppl do main things you do for him, example: feed him, change diapers, … etc … cos now he thinks that you are the ONLY provider of these all! Let more faces & new faces share these things with him, w inshalla khair … plus … talk to him as grown up, they do understand, while you’r working or moving from room to room, tell him Yousef let’s go to the kitchen I wana you to be with me there, talk to him about why he cries & that you won’t run away without him :) & Good luck

Rawan Z

Amal said...

Hi Noora,
My daughter is about the same age and she does the same thing to me. Even though she has 3 older sibblings and goes to a nursery while I'm at work. I realized the more I try to give her to others the worse it gets. She wakes up many times during the night just to make sure I'm still there.I think we just need to wait it out and pray it gets better with time. On the other hand you need to give yourself a break too. So when it gets to tough let someone take him off your hands,even if he cries, and take some me time. Believe me you recharge and even miss him by the time you come back.
Hope this helps.
Good luck.