Friday, December 30, 2011
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Thursday, December 22, 2011
While Yousef has just turned 1-year-old in November, friends are telling me that I am already running late in enrolling him in a school. Apparently, there are long waiting lists for grades as young as KG.
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Getting a Dog
Friday, December 16, 2011
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Will my baby learn how to walk on his own?
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Monday, November 28, 2011
Friday, November 25, 2011
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Monday, November 21, 2011
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
Saturday, November 12, 2011
A Child Labourer
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Monday, October 31, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Monday, October 24, 2011
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Yousef, my 11-month-old son, has been extra naggy the past few months. I don’t know why and I cannot figure out what has changed, but things are definitely getting out of control.
If I leave the room to go to the kitchen for example, even though he can still see me, he starts crying. If we are in the same room, he has to be in my lap. If we are not in the same room, he cries hysterically. What’s even worse is that he is not accepting ANYONE but me. He is constantly nagging until I carry him.
I don’t know if this is just a phase, but I need to find a solution ASAP. Before all this, he used to love going to my sister’s house and I could leave him there for hours without any problems. Now, he refuses to stay in the same room with her if I am not there!
For anyone who works from home and has an entire house to look after, this situation is too hard to handle. I cannot carry him while I am cooking or cleaning and I cannot leave all the work until he is asleep, I am too exhausted by then.
Some people are telling me that I should gradually try to change this habit; others are telling me that I should wait it out. But, what if waiting it out makes things worse?!
What shall I do?
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Is it from the Flu?
Monday, October 17, 2011
Baby # 2
Friday, October 14, 2011
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Something Is Bothering Me
The house-work is killing me! Writing this blog post at 10:30pm is the first thing I have done for myself all day.
When has Amman become such a dusty city? I wipe the table, turn my back and it’s dirty again! On the other hand, there are the piles and piles of laundry that need to be washed, dried, ironed, and neatly returned to where they belong. The dishes that need to be cleaned and the bottles that need to be sterilized. On top of it all, there is my 11-moth-old baby who seems to want to follow me everywhere I go, and I mean everywhere!
I don’t remember ever being this tidy before I got married. In fact, I remember my mum threatening to throw all my clothes away if I do not remove them off the floor. Whenever I lost something, I knew exactly where it was, behind the bed. Life was simple.
Lately, I have been feeling very down. It’s not just the pressures of the house and my son, I really miss the “me time” I used to have. I miss getting my hair and nails done, I miss having uninterrupted hot meals, I miss watching TV and I miss going out of the house, worry-free. More than anything, I miss going to the gym.
Everyone keeps on telling me that I should take a break every now and then, but I do not have many options when it comes to finding someone to watch my baby. I just feel stuck and it is really getting to me. Help!
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
There is nothing like family! I am currently in Riyadh, where most of my family members reside, and I am feeling great.
I have 7 brothers and sisters and 9 nieces and nephews. Each with his or her own personality, yet a perfect fit within the whole picture. My eldest niece is 16 and the youngest is just over a year. It always surprises me how well they all get along and how much they all truly love each other.
When we were growing up, my father had always reserved Wednesdays to be family days. No friends and no plans outside the house. Just all of us crammed together in our living room with our noises bouncing off the walls. Yes, it used to annoy us sometimes because when you are young, you do not appreciate the importance of family. But now that I have a family of my own, I thank my father every day for planting the importance of family ties in all of us.
I sometimes hear stories of siblings fighting over money, cutting all ties because their spouses do not get along or simply drifting apart because they each have their own social life. I do not wish that on anyone!
Speaking as a daughter, sister, aunt, and mama, do not under-estimate the importance of family, it truly is a precious gift. Set aside one day of the week for your immediate family and start creating a new generation of loving children.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
A Happy Marriage
Many people I know are getting divorced. Couples who had been dating for years before they got married, men and women who I personally know are very kind, understanding and decedent people, are deciding that divorce is a better option.
Before you get married, you assume that love is the most important thing; love and only love can make things work. However, you soon find out that life, really can get in the way of love.
From my personal experience, I find that kids are the number one thing that can distract a couple from each other. When my son was first born, it took my husband and me months to get our relationship back on track.
Of course, I am not saying that loving or caring for your children is not important, on the contrary, I am obsessed with caring for my son. However, I am just saying that spending a few hours away from your children to work on your marriage is as important.
There is no recipe for a happy marriage and what works for one couple might never work for another. Yet, there are a few things that can get you on the right track. Be understanding, give your partner space to make mistakes, and let your partner be himself just like you want him to let you be yourself.
I read a book on this topic called “Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff In Love” by Richard Carlson. I found everything in it to be so true. I reread it over and over again every time I become anxious or get caught up in a swirl of my own negative thoughts.
For me, there is nothing more important than a happy marriage because in it is where I raise myself and more importantly, my children. Invest in making sure that you and your partner are on the right track and you will be teaching your children one of the most important lessons they will ever learn: how to truly love and care for their own families.
Saturday, September 24, 2011
Do you ever talk to your teens about the news? Especially nowadays when there are violent scenes of people attacking each other or victims left on the streets, I wonder if the news should be playing when they are around.
I remember when I was in middle school, something bad was happening in the world and my friend was shocked that I heard nothing about it. Thinking about it, I remember seeing my parents watch the news but I never actually sat and watched it with them.
I regret to say that I turned out to be a totally clueless person. In so many cases, people would be talking about something that had just been all over the news and I would have no idea what to say, it was embarrassing!
However, all that changed when I started working for the magazine, it was part of my job to stay informed and look for stories, and I finally understood the world around me.
With so much unfairness and tragedy going around, should you make your teens watch the news to become informed members of their societies or should you protect them from a sometime cruel reality?
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
If you ever needed to get any work done on your house, I am sure you will totally relate to what I am about to write about.
About 2 years, ago my husband and I moved into our home, we loved it and were so thrilled about every inch in it.
I was so excited to start the decoration phase. The only image I had in my mind was that of the movies' when a couple first moves into their new house, the furniture gets delivered on time by happy workers, the woman joyfully points to where everything goes and finally, the couple sits on the couch hand in hand, admiring their ever so perfect house.
Boy was I wrong! I decided to start with the paint; all I needed to get done was paint the guest room, living room and the stairway. It has been a painful 5 months!
So far, the painter has needed to go to the hospital twice to get shots because of his nasty flu (which seems to magically disappear in a day), kept me waiting for several days without answering his phone, painted uneven lines (part of the design) and tried to convince me it’s just the lighting, and ruined his own paint job when he moved the ladder.
To top it all off, we discovered a mold problem that ruined an entire side of the room and its fresh paint job, something the workers found very funny!
Picture-perfect image shattered...
Here I am, writing this post, waiting for this to be finally over.
Wish me luck!
Sunday, September 18, 2011
I Want This, And This, And This...
Is it just me or is everything getting really expensive these days?
I went with my niece to buy a school bag and some stationary, I was shocked at the total price!
When I think of it, we really did not buy anything she doesn’t need: a bag, a lunch box, a water bottle, and some basic stationary, how did it end up costing that much!
Granted, we bought good quality items however, if this is how much her school supplies cost now, how will things be in a few years when it’s time for high-school and the peer pressure really kicks in.
On the other hand, she is enrolled in a gym and takes swimming classes. Let’s not forget the never-ending birthday parties she gets invited to and how each birthday is a “really important party”.
I used to think that boys are easier to please, until I met my friend's kids with their video games, their sneakers, their after school activities and finally their gadgets.
If your kid is in a school surrounded by others who have all these materialistic luxuries, would it be fair to keep him in that kind of environment and have him be less than his peers? On the other hand, when do you draw the line? When is buying this item ok and the other not?
My friend came to me for advice and I am clueless as to what is fair and what is not (I’m a first-time mama), any ideas?
Thursday, September 15, 2011
More often than not, mamas tend to act like super-women; the husband, the house, the kids, and the social commitments.
I found that it is so easy to get carried away with this role: to convince myself that all will collapse if I am not there, that an emergency is sure to happen because I let someone else watch my son, and that life, as my family knows it, will surely stop once I leave the house.
As I was watching a family comedy show, the husband points out to his wife that although she complains a lot about not having any time for herself, staying that way is the only thing that makes her happy. The husband (who needed to be nice to get away with a golfing trip) offers to watch the kids and run the house, so that his wife can go to the movies. Of course, she declined, thinking that her husband wouldn’t know how to manage things.
It was so funny to watch because this is exactly what I do! When my sister offers to baby-sit on weekends, I worry and say no. If my friends offer to come over and watch my baby so I can go to the gym, I always reply with “you wouldn’t know how to handle him.” Without doing it on purpose, I always manage to have one excuse or another for why I cannot do something for myself. Then, I cry (literally cry, with tears and the whole deal) about not being able to do things for me.
If this happens with you, I am here to tell you that becoming aware of it is a huge step forward.
Try to notice if you are the same way and take this piece of advice: stop it before it is too late! It is truly an unattractive quality and eventually people will stop offering to help.