I have decided to spend more time with my baby girl Mona, now 3 months old, no matter what it takes.
Yousef who is 1 year and 9 months, has occupied my life for 1 year and 9 months! Everyone around me has been telling me that I should not feel so bad about not giving Mona as much attention since Yousef is in an age where he can get jealous and truly "miss" me.
However, my mind and heart are being tormented all the time about not holding her enough, not being the one who feeds her or puts her to sleep all the time, and not giving her as much attention as Yousef.
I know it's different now with 2 babies, but I am going to do it no matter what! They are both sick now and so both need my attention, I hope I'm strong enough not to crumble after a few days...
3 comments:
hayyy noora.
i know exactly how u feel cause im in the same spot as u are my kids ( ahmad & anadlus) are the same age as urs so i feel that way ALWAYS...
its never easy yet i did some research online & from some parenting websits ifound that experts & other moms like us say that kids in this age wont be trumtized if u dont give them all u want to give them in fact they might not remember this stage of their lives at all. what they will remember though is having each other for as long as they can remember & thats the best gift we ever gave them, a built in friend for life,,, & perhaps its better this way cause this life will teach them tolernace & sharing & how to be flexble more than most people,
so don't beat ur self up ( life is doing that for us all thank you very much)
& just try to give them as much hugs & kisses as u can & smile alot they love that :D
Dear Reem,
I cannot thank you enough for the reassurance you have given me. I cannot tell you how many people (including my mother) have told me that I am being obsessive. It's nice to know that someone out there gets what I am saying.
I hope the experts are right, for both our sakes :)
ameeeen
well i tell u what in my case what made me think of having my kids this close in age is the fact that my husband and his bro r this close. u know what all he. remembers is all these "advintures" they used to have together ;-)
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